What would you do Wednesday!
You are friends with two church members who are dating each other. They officially joined your congregation 12 months ago. They faithfully attend corporate church functions and have been singing in the choir for the last six months.
Upon having dinner at his place (you thought) it looks as though both of them live in this home. You inquire and are told that they moved in together 11 month ago, just one month after joining the church. They further admit that their living arrangements probably would not be popular among the congregation. But they plan to marry and think that since they are in their mid-30’s they are old enough to handle the situation. They also explain that it helps them save money.
You confront them and eventually bring in two other church members who are friends of all involved via Matthew 18. You try to persuade them to live separately prior to marriage. Six months go by and they will not budge. You explain that your next step will be to take the issue to your pastor.
In conversation with your pastor about various issue you are able to run this situation by him hypothetically. Your pastor notes that if he understands everything correctly he would get involved. He said if there were no repentance in approximately another six months this issue would have to be brought before the church. If all things stayed the same your pastor thinks these folks would end up being kicked out of the congregation for lack of repentance.
Your two cohabiting friends are upset that you considered going to your pastor. The whole issue has really put a strain on your relationship, but talk of bringing the pastor in has really set things off.
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