Ethics: A Homosexual Asks About Christianity

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What would you do Wednesday!

You have the opportunity to minister to a friend who is a practicing homosexual.You’ve had some passing conversations with him about Christianity. He’s never wanted to engage too much and believes he knows where you stand. He thought it might hurt your friendship if you talked too deeply about Christianity and homosexuality.

However, the recent allegations against Eddie Long have made him curious. He is also reminded of Ted Haggard’s past situation and admissions. Frankly, your friend is a little upset. He sees these men who call or called themselves pastors who have preached against homosexuality yet are charged with engaging in homosexual acts themselves.

Not only that, but he sees how these men are married and thinks of his own committed relationship. He would never cheat on his partner like these men of the clothe have. So he’s confused on several fronts and even a bit angry. He doesn’t understand why Christians would reject him and his lifestyle while many have accepted Haggard and are supporting Long.

He is ready to have a serious talk with you about the Christian faith. He has reached out to you and wants help understanding how Christianity fits with the above scandals. But more importantly, he wants to understand the big picture of knowing Jesus Christ and what Christians think about homosexuality and homosexuals.

What would you say?

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{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Life_is_golden September 29, 2010 at 12:22 pm

I WOULD TAKE TIME TO SAY THANK YOU TO MY FRIEND FOR HAAVING THIS CONVO WITH ME. I THINK THAT IN THIS CASE YOU ONLY HAVE A FEW SECONDS TO GET YOUR POINT ACROSS. LER YOUR FRIEND KNOWS THAT GOD LOVES ALL PEOPLE. GOD HATES THE SIN BUT LOVES THE SINNER. be SURE TO SHINE LIGHT IN THE FACT THAT WEATHER YOU ARE A PASTOR OR NOT YOU ARE STILL A HUNMAN . PEOPLE TEND TO HOLD PASTORS AND OTHER PEOPLE IN THE CHURCH TO A HIGER STANDARD THAN OTHERS IN THE CHURCH. A TITLE IS JUDT THAT A TITLE. WE ARE ALL STILL HUMANS THERE FOR WE ARE NOT PERFECT. But AS A CHILD OF GOD THOSE PEOPLE WE HAVE TO GO TO THE FATHER AND SEEK FORGIVINESS. jOHN3:16. WELL THAST MY LITTLE SPILL MAYBE IT WILL HELP BE BLESSED

2 Mark September 29, 2010 at 2:49 pm

Life_

Thanks for stopping by. The CAPS are a little tough on the eyes though. Anyway, I appreciate your thoughts. I had more in mind that the conversation would be more than just a few minutes. What would you tell them about their homosexual lifestyle in light of telling them God loves you, but hates your sin?

3 Victoria September 30, 2010 at 9:45 am

I would tell my friend that those scandals do not fit with Christianity at all. Just because a man leads thousands of people in a big church and calls himself a Christian,certainly does not make him one. You could say the same thing about Jim Jones-he called himself a Christian. Jesus makes it very clear that not every one who says to him-Lord-Lord will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. In fact Matthew 7:15-21 is a sobering read for anyone who names Christ and even casts out demons and heals the sick–as both Ted and Eddie have claimed. That is the passage where I take anyone who throws examples like those two men at me.

I would in fact make those very scandals a big part of sharing the Gospel with him. I would tell him he is a sinner just like every other human being on the planet. Homosexuality is not the issue anymore than murder or adultery or any other “big time” sin is the issue. It is not that a single sin is our problem-it is that we are rotten to the core of our being-we are dead in trespasses and sin and we need a Savior to raise us from the dead and give us newness of life. This dear man needs the GOSPEL-presented to him in a clear way: and he needs the Holy Spirit to opens his eyes and heart to receive the gift of forgiveness and eternal life from the Lord Jesus Christ-the Savior -the Redeemer-the wonderful Friend of sinners.

I really think these things can become a smoke screen-a homosexual friend needs the Gospel like any other unsaved friend. And questions that the unsaved have, like the one about Ted and Eddie–that is a real springboard into a presentation of the Gospel. And you know, when it gets right down to it-it is not my eloquence or powerful personality or heart throbbing presentation of the Gospel that draws anyone to Christ; because it is the GOSPEL ITSELF which is the Power of God unto salvation for everyone who believes.

I hope this does sound like I am being too simple -I really believe we make things way too complex when it comes to the simplicity of the Gospel for any lost soul. I have a lot in common with that homosexual man -I am a SINNER-hell bound without the intervention of my great-my awesome-my wonderful Savior, Jesus Christ.

From the way you have told the story Mark; it seems as though God has already been working greatly in his soul, so it seems like fertile ground for the Gospel.

4 Mark September 30, 2010 at 11:42 am

Great reply, Victoria. Thanks.

5 Jeff October 4, 2010 at 11:34 am

This is a tough one for me, I have known gay men and women who led the wicked homosexual lifestyle, and I have known gay men and women who were upstanding people in their communities and gave back to so many people, they were in what one could call a commited relationship with one person for years. I never feel that I am qualified to tell someone else how to live because of all the mistakes I have made so this would really be a hard one.

6 Victoria October 4, 2010 at 5:12 pm

Hi Jeff-I hope you do not take my comment in the wrong way, but I just have to say it.
I am not qualified nor are you qualified to tell anyone how to live their life. God and God alone is qualified to tell us how we must live our lives. Homosexuality is not wrong because I think or feel that it is wrong. It is wrong because God says it is wrong. And when we love people as we ought to we must share the truth about God and the Gospel and His will for people. And a big part of loving people is to help them see what God says is right and wrong. I have made more mistakes in my life than I will ever be able to count, but I like to call them what God calls them: He calls them sin. And sin has to be confessed to God and repented of and forsaken with His help and by His grace. Jeff if you read the book of Romans in the Bible you can see what sin is–what God thinks about it-and what an awesome thing he has done through the Death and Resurrection of Jesus Christ to set men and women free from sin.
Please read the book of Romans –it will really help clear this up for you.

7 Jeff October 4, 2010 at 6:03 pm

Hey Victoria, I did not take that the wrong way at all. I just feel that for me to tell someone how they should or shouldnt live their life would almost make me a hypocrite due to the way I live mine. I am far from where I need to be, although I do feel I am making progress. I stumble but I continue to get up and try again. I agree that you can equate mistakes to sin, because thats what they are. I almost had to laugh this weekend, I was watching a comedian on TV talk about this issue, and he asked what the bible says. The answer given was “If man lay with man, that is an abomination.” Then he asked what it says about two women and the answer was nothing, so the point was being gay is wrong being a lesbian is ok. Now before anyone gets upset at me, I’m not agreeing with that, I just found it interesting. But Im sure it has to say something in there about that doesnt it? I will try to read Romans this week, thanks for the advice Victoria.

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