What would you do Wednesday!
Unfortunately, the following situation is based on actual events.
Your wife and kids got to spend the day with your pastor’s wife and kids. Although four kids, ages 9 to 12, can be a handful, your wife came home surprisingly frustrated.
Your wife explains that the pastor’s children were very rude and disrespectful to her outside their mother’s presence and even to their mother directly. The children were even disrespectful to their father, your pastor.
Your children confirm your wife’s frustrations. After asking your children if they had fun with Jack and Diane, your pastor’s kids they said yes, but were confused about a few things. Your children asked why pastor’s kids would call their dad is crazy and call him names like dufus, worm, idiot, etc. They also wondered why Jack and Diane would tell their mother to shut-up. Your children were concerned because they know that such disrespectfulness would not be tolerated in your home.
You recall overhearing comments from various church members describing the pastor’s children as “out of control,” but chose not to join in the gossip. However, now you are concerned that there is some truth to the gossip. Though you wonder why no one has ever spoken up.
Disturbed by how your pastor’s kids acted, 1 Timothy 3 comes to mind.
He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? (1 Timothy 3:4-5 ESV)
You wonder: Is my pastor disqualified based on the disobedience of his kids? How do I approach him? Should I approach him?
What would you do?
- Express your concerns to your pastor personally.
- Not worry about their actions since kids will be kids.
- Try to record the kids actions so you can show other church members.