Men, You Are Only A Few Clicks Away From Being Josh Duggar

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Josh Duggar has been caught in yet another sexual sin once the hacked Ashley Madison database was leaked. (His responses noted below.) On one hand, I am surprised at this revelation. On the other hand, I am not surprised because, sadly, any of us men are only a few clicks away from being Josh Duggar.

It Could Have Been You

Do you think you are better than Josh Duggar? Do you think nothing like that could happen to you? Think again.

We live in a culture that is saturated in sexuality. Sex appeal was discovered long ago to be a key ingredient to effectively market products. As a Christian man, with many male Christian friends, I can attest that sexual temptation is everywhere. What is clear, based on my affiliation with Trinity Counseling and Educational Center, my own past failings, men I’ve counseled, shared confessions and redemptive stories, et al., is that Christian men involved in sexual sin spans far beyond Josh Duggar.

In fact, sexual immorality is nothing new among Christians. The first-century church even addressed sexual sins like incest (1 Cor. 5), homosexuality (Rom. 1), and adultery (1 Cor. 6:9). Many warnings were given against such sins (Col. 3:5, 1 Thess. 4:3). And that’s just what we have recorded.

While such sins are nothing new, unfortunately, they will not soon be something forgotten. Christians live in a fallen world full of fallen people who live fallen lives. The world draws us in and we often participate in her sins. We just as often repent. Yet, sometimes we don’t repent but partake – over and over. I do not mean we commit just the big sins with big consequences like adultery and other forms of sexual immorality. It may be greed, pride, drunkenness, gossip, etc.

A Victim of Sin

Christian men, do you still think what happened to Josh Duggar could not happen to you? Do you not think it possible to be numbered among the 30 million exposed in the Ashley Madison database?

Actually, nothing happened to him except his adulterous secrets were leaked to the world. He did it all himself. He is a victim of his own willful sin. He has been called a hypocrite for speaking out against what he saw as immorality in other people’s lifestyles. In fact, Christians are often called hypocrites though I’m not convinced that is the case.

While Duggar was living in unrepentant sin calling out sins such as same-sex marriage, he was acting hypocritically. He should have dealt with his own sins before judging others. This does not mean he was wrong in his judgements as Josh Duggar is not the moral standard – that would be God and his word. Duggar may not have been wrong in his moral judgments, but his sins hurt any credibility and gospel witness he may have had. But then he repented.

He Repented

Josh Duggar has again repented of his sexual sins. His public statement reveals repentance to God, his wife, and the public. Many will judge his repentance as a sham – I get that. His repentance is ultimately between he and God. Then, between he and his wife.

We may never know how genuine his repentance is and the unbelieving world will probably never accept it. My friend Marty wrote, “Whether Duggar’s repentance is authentic only God knows…” As a Christian, I am hoping for the best. Any Christians caught in such sin followed by repentance ought to hope their fellow Christians would accept their repentance and help them through.

Josh Duggar’s real victims are his wife and kids. While his parents, siblings, and some of the public may be hurt, nothing can match the pain his dear wife must be feeling right now. He should be grateful she is staying with him through all of this. I hope she gets to express her righteous anger and is fully heard. I pray they go through intense biblical counseling and she gets an equal hearing about her pain and that he feels it, too. If he is truly repentant, he is hurting too, but he needs to understand the depth of the pain he caused both spiritually and emotionally.

Guard Your Heart

I am sure Josh Duggar did not begin living in sexual sin overnight. Who knows how long he struggled with these sins? Who knows exactly when he began turning temptation into sin? Christian, if you are struggling with sin, it is never too late to turn from that sin as long as you have breath.

We Christian men have got to guard our hearts least we find ourselves number 30 million and one. Our affections must be toward Jesus. Affections set on Jesus will lead to sexual desires rightly set on our spouses.

Guard your heart and capture your thoughts constantly as a daily habit. Local church involvement and close Christian relationships are a must. Regular prayer time and Scripture reading will keep you grounded. If you find yourself tempted by sexual sins (or others), figure out why you think Jesus unable to satisfy you in all circumstances (Phil. 4:11).

Men, while we may only be a few clicks away from being Josh Duggar, remember, we are also a few clicks away from the gospel. And Jesus is always with you (Matt. 28:20).

Here I blog…

Mark

P.S. Below are the recent statements from Josh Duggar after the Ashley Madison leak.

Current Statement:
“I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have been unfaithful to my wife.

I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.

I have brought hurt and a reproach to my family, close friends and the fans of our show with my actions.

The last few years, while publicly stating I was fighting against immorality in our country I was hiding my own personal failures.

As I am learning the hard way, we have the freedom to choose our actions, but we do not get to choose our consequences. I deeply regret all the hurt I have caused so many by being such a bad example.

I humbly ask for your forgiveness. Please pray for my precious wife Anna and our family during this time.

Josh Duggar”
Original Statement:
“I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife.

I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.

I brought hurt and a reproach to my family, close friends and the fans of our show with my actions that happened when I was 14-15 years old, and now I have re-broken their trust.

The last few years, while publicly stating I was fighting against immorality in our country, I was hiding my own personal failings.

As I am learning the hard way, we have the freedom to choose to our actions, but we do not get to choose our consequences. I deeply regret all hurt I have caused so many by being such a bad example.

I humbly ask for your forgiveness. Please pray for my precious wife Anna and our family during this time.

Josh Duggar”
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The above article was posted on August 22, 2015 by Mark Lamprecht.
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1 Carla Rolfe August 22, 2015 at 12:27 am

Excellent post. Something I fear too many Christian men (and women) are too eager to gloss over. It COULD be any of us.

2 Grant August 22, 2015 at 5:42 am

“We may never know how genuine his repentance is and the unbelieving world will probably never accept it.”
The world doesn’t accept repentance anyway because the world doesn’t believe in the concept.
The world nurtures such as the Ashley Madison adultery facillitation website.

Any concept anyone in the world has about marriage, unless Biblically informed, is not the right one. Even a monogamous, hetrosexual definition of marriage that does not arise from the ultimate purpose of marriage in the Glory of Jesus Christ (Ephesians 5:22-33) is going to degenerate as the world is given over to the sins the love.
We have seen exactly that in the legalisation of same-sex “marriage.” The Church may, sooner than we expect, suffer the intolerance of the “champions of tolerance.”

So, Josh Duggar does seem to have been a hypocrite, but the world likes hypocrisy very much. But will never admit it. The irony.

The one previous blog post linked to, regarding Matthew 7:5, and part of it being “invisible” to some, is deeply relevant. Parts of the Bible being “invisible” to those who don’t want to see them is the root of any problem in the church. And we determine whether the “invisibility” of those Words of God is willful by how people respond when they are shown what they seemingly don’t see. I’ve seen a church split when that was done by a new, faithful pastor.

3 Dan Smith August 22, 2015 at 8:30 am

As a believer recovering from sexual addiction (always recovering) I know two truths right now. 1: Josh is in for a long, painful road, as is his family. 2: God’s grace is amazing, powerful, and able to cure all things. Regardless of what the world thinks of this (I tend to agree with one of your other posters regarding the world and repentance), I hope Josh Duggar finds real recovery and that his marriage is somehow saved. I’m grateful that mine was.

4 Ben E. Brady August 22, 2015 at 9:09 am

What people don’t realize is that fully one third of Christian men have a problem with pornography on the internet.
Until I became a judge I had no idea how pervasive sexual immorality is in our society. Our country needs prayer. Our men and women need prayer.

5 carrie August 23, 2015 at 8:26 am

Why did he change his statement to not include pornography???? Any idea?

6 Mark Lamprecht August 24, 2015 at 10:17 am

I have no idea.

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