It’s that time of year again. A time that men love to hate and always forget. That is, if you believe the comedians. I mentioned it last year and it’s hear again. My wedding anniversary! Contrary to the funny people I do remember and look forward to my anniversary.
We will be in a little town away from all the “stuff” in metro-Atlanta. There will be no email, blogging, twitter, facebook, etc. It will be a nice getaway with my lovely bride. Aside from being the good looking part of the us she is an unbelievable blessing from God! She is my wife, my helper.
By the grace of God my wife has been my helper in many ways. She calls herself my helper too. She doesn’t do this to brag about all the things she’s done to help me. She is there to love and support me as she looks to my spiritual leadership in our home. I’m the one that gets to do the bragging! Bragging in the Lord that is. What better way to brag in the Lord about my wife than to quote His word* to describe my wife and some aspects of our relationship.
- Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; Psalm 128:3
- An excellent wife is the crown of her husband Proverbs 12:4
- He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22
- House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14
- An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12
- Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Colossians 3:18
- Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Colossians 3:19
- [Wives] are heirs with [their husbands] of the grace of life 1 Peter 3:7
These verses describe well my wife and our relationship. We strive to please God first and ourselves second. Of course, in seeking to conform our lives to the Gospel first causes us to have the great marriage we have. I’ll give you an example of what this looks like.
Recently, I was called to serve as a deacon. My wife did nominate me as I found out after the fact. But there is more to it. Had she not thought that I met the biblical qualifications for a deacon she would have not been shy in letting that be known. First, she would have never nominated me. Had I been chosen anyways she would have lovingly talked to me about where she saw me to be biblically disqualified. She would have also talked to our pastor and told him the same thing. And I would have loved her for it!
She knows my desires and wants me to serve in ministry, but not if my service is a mockery to God. Yes, she loves God that much and I can’t appreciate her enough for it. And she cares for my soul all the while. What a blessing it is to have my joint heir in Christ, my wife, as my best friend and helper.
Praising the Lord for her…
P.S. There is one thing I’d like to suggest for husbands out there. Since your wife knows you better (or should) than anyone else, sit down with her and ask her about you. Have something to write with. Have her tell you where she sees your weaknesses in your role as husband and spiritual leader in the home. Just listen. Don’t reply. Don’t react. Humbly take what she says before the Lord in self-examination.
P.P.S. Full disclosure, I haven’t done this yet. I also forgot where I got the idea, but it sounds great. Even so, it might be a bit scary. I’ll let you know…maybe.
*All verse taken from the ESV.