Ethics: Adult Toy Seller to Sing at Church Event

What would you do Wednesday!

Today’s scenario is based on the true story of Kandi Burrus as reported by the Christian Post.1 According to CP, Burrus is a reality TV star, sells adult toys online and recently recorded the gospel song “Stay Prayed Up”.

For the past several months your church has been planning a gospel music event. The event is well advertized, open to the public, and church members encouraged to bring friends and family.

You have invited friends and family to the event some of whom include your neighbors. The whole night is planned out including coffee with friends afterward where you hope to share the gospel with some of your unbelieving guests.

The night before the concert you get a disturbing phone call.

One of your fellow church members found out that one of the singers for tomorrow evening’s event runs an online adult sex toy store. With trepidation you ask for proof and get it.

What would you do?

  • Attend the event and talk to church leaders afterward.
  • Attend and say nothing.
  • Don’t attend and say nothing.
  • Inform church leaders and as many people as you can.
  • Don’t attend and boycott with picket signs.
  • Or….
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{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

1 jennyelaine February 20, 2013 at 11:05 am

Many times we Christians sensationalize things out of fear of some sort…so it is so important to not jump to conclusions and then find out you are bearing false witness. I would therefore NOT gossip…which is also what is done many times…then call the Pastor *right away* and ask what he knows and what he would want to do about it. We have to remember that, if we were going to be very strict about things, then we could point out the Christian that owns a grocery store that carries beer and wine…or a sister in the Lord who runs an intimates shop…or…there are many scenerios. We just have to make sure we are not sinning in the process of pointing out sin.

2 T (@ToscaSac) February 20, 2013 at 11:26 am

I would want to know if the church who invited the speakers are aware of the issue and what their stance is on it. I would also want to know where this singer/adult toy seller is with their faith. I don’t need fancy music productions. I want the anointing when it comes to church gatherings. The newest “who’s who” or “who’s hot” is not what churches need to focus on. I would definitely want more information before proceeding. If it was just a case of someone running a respectable moral but “adult” themed business I could handle that. Does not exactly sound like what might be going on here.

3 brig February 20, 2013 at 12:12 pm

I didn’t realize that (married) adults weren’t allowed to buy or sell toys. Is there a list somewhere? Next on the list will be Christian booksellers for listing Ed Wheat books.

4 Mark February 20, 2013 at 3:12 pm

We have two comments recommending cautionary approaches and one asking when married adults were forbidden from using such toys.

brig, that is a good question. I wonder if anyone will argue that the Bible prohibits them.

5 jaj1112 February 20, 2013 at 3:34 pm

I faced this once in a new pastorate. We had an inactive couple and the lady sold these items at home parties. Her husband actually told me that his wife was providing a needed service to single folk, I assume needed relief from sexual stress.” She was a gospel singer as well and wanted to come and sing periodically although they were inactive and looking around. I felt a responsibility pastor to oversee the pulpit and the platform as to the witness that was presented. I did not allow her to sing based on both her inactivity and her “business” activity. Later she felt called to go to Bible College and thankfully gave up her business indicating that she was convicted about the influence and testimony.

6 Mark February 20, 2013 at 3:55 pm

jaj112, thanks for commenting. I would say selling to single folks is different than selling to married folks.

7 Jake February 20, 2013 at 9:42 pm

Personally, I would have no problem, and probably find the person interesting to talk to. However one person is not a church. Everyone’s feelings need to be taken into consideration. Especially those, a little less mature in the Spirit. This invitation would also definantly be a test for me, as to what kind of leadership the church has , and where they stood in their faith, or how capable that leaderhip was..

8 John A,. Jenkins February 20, 2013 at 10:18 pm

A person who is conducting a business which helps people fantasize sexually and masturbate with a toy then wants to wail Gospel songs about Jesus might be interesting to talk to. Some of us less mature believers may talk with them concerning their testimony.

9 Jake February 21, 2013 at 2:09 am

There are quite a few folks out there, professing to be Christians, singing worship songs, encouraging us in our Christian walk, but in my opinion, leading lives, at least in part, not according to Biblical principles. A good number, Country Western singers, and song writers come to mind. It is their testimony that I am interested in as well, and maybe they could expound a little from the pulpit, on how they can compartmentalize their lives, or at least appear to from the pews.


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