Ethics: Fellow Christian Recommends 50 Shades of Grey

What would you do Wednesday!

Today’s scenario is between two Christians who are friends and fellow church members.

You catch up on each others’ lives during a regular luncheon with a church friend. You try to have lunch a couple times per month for prayer, encouragement, and fellowship.

While having a spiritual conversation you ask about their spouse. Since so many marriages have spiritual struggles in this age of busyness and information overload discussions about each others prayer and devotional life within the marriage is always a topic.

Today, your friend tells you that their prayer and devotional life is pretty good, but their intimacy recently took a turn to wonderful! Your friend explains that they found a great book that has added some excitement to their life.

Your friend says, “We’ve been reading 50 Shades of Grey. You all should pick up a copy!”

What would you do?

  • Take the advice: get and read the book.
  • Decline while encouraging their reading.
  • Decline and say nothing.
  • Decline, recommend a Christian book, and explain why “50 Shades” should not be read.
  • Ask if they’d be okay inviting the pastor and his wife for a couples devotion using “50 Shades”.
  • Or…
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{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 clarkd52 February 27, 2013 at 12:21 pm

As a pastor I like option 5. But, while I understand that the marriage bed is a very private place for committed adults, still, introducing porn is a terrible practice. THe focus of married intimacy should be on your spouse without extra people in bed with you in your minds.

2 Mark February 27, 2013 at 8:50 pm

Sounds like good advice to me. Thanks, Clark.

3 Ajay Pollarine February 28, 2013 at 12:22 am

In all cases I believe I’d make my stand known on the subject, but in most cases I’d also tell them that it’s not me they should be concerned with, rather they ought to find out what the Word of God says on this subject, I’d recommend they’d talk to their pastor and delve hard into the Bible.

4 Christiaan Funkhouser February 28, 2013 at 9:36 pm

Well, being put in a similar situation, with a couple that wasn’t a Christian, I was told NOT to read it as she knew that I wouldn’t enjoy it, but when I asked “Why she was reading it, because I heard it was basically a porn book” she replied, “Well, every girls needs their fill of smut at times. I know it’s all fake, and I know it’s not realistic and what not, but I need something I can just turn my brain off and read something. But It’s a story about people changing for love.”

To which my reply was basically… “Well, that’s interesting. I haven’t heard that, but from what you say, it seems interesting, but I’m sure there are other books without the smut.”

However! In this basic situation, I would probably ask why… then decline based on their response. I think the WORST response would be the “decline and recommend a book about WHY 50 Shades is terrible”

Anyway! Cheers!


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