Ethics: Immodest Dress In Church

What would you do Wednesday!

The scenario is that you are friends with a couple at church who are always in Sunday School (or whatever you might call it). Spring comes and you notice that this couple has stopped coming to Sunday School. Although they do attend corporate worship as usual.

You go to your friends explaining that you’ve noticed they haven’t been in Sunday School. Out of concern you ask if everything is okay. They explain that since spring had come a certain individual in class has been dressing in clothes they consider to be immodest. The explain that a certain lady has been wearing low cut cops and skirts/dresses that are too short for comfort.

Your friends also explain that another couple in class noticed the same thing, however the second couple is in a different Sunday School class. The second couple brought up the issue in passing, but didn’t specifically point anyone out. It was more of a general, uncomfortable observation. Your friends weren’t sure what to do so they decided it would be better not to say anything, skip Sunday School for now and let is pass.

After a few Sunday’s pass your friends are missing the fellowship, teaching, etc. They’re considering changing Sunday School classes or possibly talking to the lady they feel is dressing immodestly. They feel that if they change classes people will wonder why, but they also don’t want to cause any problems in their current class with the lady or the whole class.

What advice would you give them? Why?

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{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Dwayne August 11, 2010 at 12:35 pm

Immodest apparel is not only seen in church but in the culture we live in. Mature believers have to be careful about how they approach others concerning personal issues like apparel, language, and sexuality. I personally remember trying to correct a young lady about what she was wearing. Little did I know that she was newly saved and ALMOST homeless and she was wearing “hand-me-down” clothing that was given to her until she could afford better clothing.

As a believer is this post-modern culture you have to be TOLERANT of a lot of issues that are seen every day. Taking personal offence quickly isn’t wise. If there’s an issue with someone wearing immodest apparel then that person should be approached with the love of Christ. Teaching proper discretion wisely, with the love of our Father, might serve to be purposeful , because whats going on outwardly is a reflection of a inward conflict/battle. … blessings

2 Mark August 11, 2010 at 5:36 pm

Dwayne, I agree that we approach them with the love of Christ. The problem today is that even with this approach many will be personally offended and not take it as such.

We do have to be careful as your personal story indicates. Thanks for the considerate comment.

3 Jason Smathers August 11, 2010 at 11:57 pm

This seems a bit petty to leave a Sunday school class over. As Dwayne pointed out, you have to tolerate this every other day of the week when you leave the house. Unless it was really inappropriate, I would mostly pray for that person and wait for God to sanctify him. It might also be good to bring up modesty in class or from the pulpit without bringing anything specific up.

4 Mark August 12, 2010 at 11:48 am

Jason, Christians tolerate a lot of things on a daily basis, but that doesn’t mean we should emulate them. It may not be a bad idea to wait. However, we are called to lovingly confront each other. And while this scenario is made-up, I have heard stories of such dress which almost turns Sunday School into an inappropriate show-and-tell.

5 Jeff September 30, 2010 at 6:00 pm

I agree that one needs to dress the right way for church and for your day to day activities. There are way too many people showing too much skin, however to quit attending class? Seems a little overkill. Would you stop going to work if someone at work dressed too risque for you? Would you pull your kids out of high school or college since we all know that they have way too many people dressed this way on campus? Do you not go to the mall? The grocery store? A baseball game? Where do you draw the line?

6 Jimmy J Johnson April 14, 2012 at 2:11 pm

In Church today, we had a discussion concerning how women should dress if you’re in the Choir. She wants to wear pants as a form of dress for the women in the Choir. It was explained that women should only wear skirts and dresses. And as a dress fir Choir attire, the dress should be below the knee. She feels that in this day and age, it should not be an issue for women to wear pants to Church.
What is the proper dress attire for women in Church and for those in ministry?


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