Ethics: Parents Disagree on Attending Son’s Same-Sex Wedding

What would you do Wednesday!

As the same-sex marriage debate continues among some Evangelicals, tough decisions among families are bound to arise. How about when those tough questions come between husband, wife, and child? Consider the following scenario.

Five years ago, the son of Evangelical Christians finally told his parents he is gay. Today, that son is planning a same-sex wedding with his partner. His parents have strongly disagreed with his lifestyle though have always welcomed him and loved him.

The son has invited the parents to his same-sex wedding. The parents are admired and known in their community for being leaders in their church. The husband is a deacon and the wife is a women’s ministry leader who have both spoken against changing the definition of marriage to include same-sex marriage.

The parents are faced with the dilemma of whether or not to accept their son’s wedding invitation. In the past, they agreed they would not attend if their son chose to go this route. However, the father changed his mind. Though not supportive of redefining marriage, he thinks it okay to attend his son’s wedding to show him love. The father thinks he can support his son without directly supporting same-sex marriage.

The wife disagrees and does not want to attend the wedding. This is causing a lot of marital tension so they begin seeking advice from close friends in their church.

How would you advise the parents?

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{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Ted Kijeski June 10, 2015 at 9:26 pm

I like the way you made the wife the stalwart so as to work in the submission angle.

2 Shellie June 10, 2015 at 11:37 pm

Work out your salvation with fear and trembling….. The wife will stand before God, not her son. She is standing where all Christians must.

3 Grant June 15, 2015 at 11:45 am

“Though not supportive of redefining marriage, he thinks it okay to attend his son’s wedding to show him love.”
I would disagree with the husband. He is not showing his son love. He is enabling his son to believe that what he is doing is good. A wedding is a celebration. Attendance, unless he intends to voice his disapproval upon the summons for such by the person officiating at the so-called “wedding” (if that will is a taking part in the celebration.

And no true Christian can take part in the celebration of what is evil in the sight of His Saviour Jesus Christ. He should join his wife in honouring the Gospel that sin, including homosexuality, is something to be saved from, and not something to be celebrated. That is why homosexuals cannot be Christians, and to say that they can be is to deny the Gospel: it denies that homosexuality is one of the sins to be repented of according to faith in Jesus Christ.

4 Sherrie June 18, 2015 at 11:02 pm

Honestly I would try to meet my son somewhere in the middle. I would explain to him that I did not agree with his choices, and that attending his wedding would be too much for me to bear. I would do my best to respect his lifestyle choice and promise to love him and his spouse after the wedding. It is a painful situation for all involved. But, we have to stand for what we believe by loving the person and hating the sin.


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