Ethics: Pastor Changes Views on Homosexuality Over Son’s Sexuality

What would you do Wednesday!

It is Sunday morning. You are at the regular worship gathering with your local church. Your pastor is preaching on the topic of grace – that we are all sinners in need of God’s grace.

You sit listening. As you listening, you think about how big God’s grace is that He received and redeemed a sinner like yourself. Your mind runs through all your horrendous past sins, current sins, and recent temptations. Your lips muster a silent, “Amen!” as you humbly listen.

The sermon turns to a personal of grace in the pastor’s life. He shares about loving each other in spite of our sins. He mentions loving the homosexual sinner; a hot topic in today’s culture. He explains that his view has changed over the last few years on the issue of homosexuality stating, “God has used my son, who all of you know struggles with same-sex attraction, to enlarge my view of grace on the issue of homosexuality. Let me explain a few areas where God has changed me…”

You pause for a moment and think to yourself.

I wonder what he is going to say. If he says something “wrong,” what will the reaction be? Backlash? This man is very popular in our denomination. He speaks at our seminaries. His son preaches here sometimes…

The preacher continues.

I think as Christians we can do a better job standing up for the marginalized including those who identify as homosexual. For example, there are anti-discrimination measures we can support, but that’s another conversation. In short, we need to be more accepting of homosexuals into the church. We need to realize we are all sinners even after we accept Jesus. We need to get better at inviting homosexuals into the church, stop judging so much, and let Jesus take care of their sin.

How would you respond?

  • Prayerfully stand with the pastor.
  • Prayerfully consider talking one-on-one with the pastor.
  • Prayerfully consider another local church.
  • Or…

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tagged as , , in Christianity,Church Issues,Culture,ethics

{ 4 comments… read them below or add one }

1 rhology April 2, 2014 at 11:54 am

Prayerfully confront the pastor over his sin.

2 Milton Nerdherbler April 3, 2014 at 7:57 am

Up until the final clause in the very last sentence, I was onboard. We do need to get better at invitin ghomosexuals into our church–and everybody else as well. We do need to be less judgmental. However, we are called to keep one another accountable; we are not called to “let Jesus take care of their sin”. Yes, Jesus alone atones for the sin, but that does not mean we are to ignore it. Replace the sin du jour with something else and say the same thing. Let’s say there is a child molester in our ranks. Do we “let Jesus deal with the sin”, and that’s that? Better not.

3 David April 4, 2014 at 10:32 am

Yes, what Milton and rhology said. If the pastor refuses to back down on his stance of (I would assume this means) letting practicing homosexuals be members of the church, I would take others with me to persuade him to repent. Then, if he will not, bring it before the church (Matthew 18). Knowing that this was the pastor saying it, I know that one pastor refusing to repent of a sin can close an entire church. But in some cases, it is better even to not have a church and disperse people to other biblical churches in their area than to tolerate sin.

All of that being said, I’d start looking for another church as soon as it appears that the pastor will not repent. Having been through some church fights and splits just in the past several weeks which led to my church’s closing, the added pain from staying until the end just does not seem worth it to me. But biblically, if I encounter a situation like a pastor softening his stance on a (very culturally prominent) sin like this, I must plead with the pastor to repent before I leave the church. It’s like how if someone is under church discipline, often they just flee to another church. No, that doesn’t fix anything; they must deal with their sin!

Not only must homosexuality be confronted biblically, but so must every other sin. Slander, gossip, pride, gluttony, everything else. Growing up in one of my previous churches, I got very good at pointing out other people’s sin while largely ignoring my own. I thought that because I was not a homosexual, a fornicator, a drunkard, etc., that I was somehow better than those who were and that I deserved salvation but they didn’t.

4 GK November 16, 2014 at 3:25 pm

I would ask the elders if they are going to discipline the pastor as instructed by 1 Timothy 5:20: “As for those who persist in sin, rebuke them in the presence of all, so that the rest may stand in fear.”

If the elders refuse, I would consider another church.


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