Ethics: Your Pastor Reveals He is Gay

What would you do Wednesday!

It was a normal Sunday morning worship service. Everything was moving along as usual until the pastor began his sermon. He stood up and began what seemed like a sermon introduction.

Instead of preaching he began explaining that he needed to come out or confess something to the congregation. His confession is much like that of Jim Swilley in the video below.

His confession? He is gay. Although he and his wife divorced several months ago, he plans to remain a celibate. He also plans to stay as the pastor of the church.

What would you do?

  • Stay and support him in ministry?
  • Leave and find a new church home?


tagged as in Culture,morality

{ 13 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Daniel Spratlin November 10, 2010 at 12:23 pm

He should be removed from his position as an elder for the divorce alone. He should be placed under church discipline for the sin of homosexuality. Please note that “under church discipline” does not necessarily mean excommunicated. And, of course, all of this should be done with the love of Christ and with the intention of bringing the brother back into the fold.

2 bluewoad November 10, 2010 at 12:43 pm

What Daniel wrote.

But I think of importance as well is that we need to discuss same-sex attraction in Biblical terms. The idea of ‘homosexuality’ as a natural inclination (eg, ‘I was born a homosexual’ or even ‘I’m gay, but not practicing’) is a relatively recent development. Prior to about the last hundred or so years, people did not think of themselves as homosexual or heterosexual, but rather as people who practiced either heterosexual acts, homosexual acts, both, or neither. It’s only been recently that our culture has come up with the idea that your sexuality (ie, whether you’re homosexual or heterosexual) is somehow bound up in your innate identity.

3 Douglas Kofi Adu-Boahen November 10, 2010 at 2:09 pm

My personal response can be summarised in one word: Leave. No discussion, no debate, just leave. Especially if the church remains as supportive as this, I’d just go.

4 Doc B November 10, 2010 at 2:47 pm

Between the two choices you gave, I’d choose the second.

5 Victoria November 10, 2010 at 3:19 pm

Ted is all straightened out in his gayness too and Pastoring again.
/me(vickiann) thinks that only in the past 10 or so years could this ethics question even be posed. I would ask all of you to read this short article by John MacArthur before you answer-his article would be my answer.

6 Tim November 10, 2010 at 5:57 pm

I would first question, whose church is it? I’m sure that the church is most likely in his name, property and all. So the people who would stay and try to impose some kind of discipline on him would be fighting a losing battle.

Unfortunately I know that it drags everyone professing Christ through the mud and becomes a snare for believers. It reminds me of Ray Boltz and his confession that he was homosexual.

If you could confront someone who is saying they are struggling with homosexuality and love them through their sin and they respond that is a completely different story but this seems another step toward disobedience.

7 Linda November 10, 2010 at 10:12 pm

I think this is his second divorce as a christian

8 Jose Eduardo November 11, 2010 at 6:41 am


Good question.

This kind of confession is not common here in Brazil. But if the pastor says he is celibate, I stay in the church

There are many sins and many pastors who are fighting against these sins – just like you and me. Our friend from your example is another one in the war.

Jose Eduardo

9 Rhology November 12, 2010 at 4:25 pm

I stay and work hard to make sure he is removed as pastor. Daniel Spratlin said it very well.

If the church chooses to keep him, I’m gone.

10 A.M. Mallett November 13, 2010 at 1:44 pm

The pastor sure has a lot of plans.

11 Wil November 18, 2010 at 2:40 pm

OK, now the congregation understands the underlying basis for their pastors’ divorce. Since everyone here comes from a different background/culture/religious heritage, (I grew up attending a Southern Baptist church in Alabama), there are obviously going to be some very divergent responses. Here’s my thoughts –

First, assuming the pastor has been there for a while, he is a person we’ve all grown to know and love (Not much of a stretch since he’s still there several months AFTER the divorce from his wife.), so we still love him. He is a brother in Christ and I don’t know about everyone else here, but I don’t abandon my brothers & sisters. Leaving really isn’t an option at this point.

Remaining celibate tells me that he recognizes that acting on his feelings and actually engaging in homosexual perversions would be a sin. So, while he acknowledges what must be very deep and powerful feelings, he knows that with Gods help, he can overcome those sinful desires and be a productive and faithful Christian servant.

I would suggest that the church ask him to step down from the role as pastor and accept a lesser position within the church that would allow him to continue to serve while he struggles with this newly revealed dimension to his character.

We all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. This man IS a man and is also a brother in Christ. Pray for him. Support him in his struggle.

12 Gold January 2, 2011 at 6:36 pm

Amen Daniel, Amen. Though no one is righteous save God alone even Jesus said to woman who was going to be stoned for her transgressions, ” Go and SIN NO MORE”. Meaning though she was forgiven and spared, she was to go an no longer engage in the sin she was doing.
Same should apply to any pastor leading the Ekklesia.

13 Gold January 2, 2011 at 6:38 pm

Douglas, Amen that. I’d do the same.


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