Ethics: Transgender Student Elected to Homecoming Court

What would you do Wednesday!

Recently, here in Metro-Atlanta, a local CBS news headline tells a story that will most likely become more common in the days ahead. The headline reads: Transgender student at Metro Atlanta school elected to homecoming court. Some may be surprised to find out that the high school in question is in a very conservative area.

In this post, I would like Christian parents to consider what they would do if they found their kids in the scenario in the above story.

Your son comes home from school excited. You ask him, “What’s up?” He tells you that the homecoming participants have all been elected and revealed.

“My girlfriend was elected to homecoming court. I get to escort her!” he says, “Pretty cool way to finish my senior year, huh?”

Acknowledging your sons excitement as he runs upstairs, a news story about his homecoming begins. A local channel is reporting that a transgender student, a male who believes he is really female, has been elected to the school’s homecoming court. This student will be standing with an escort next to your son and his girlfriend during the homecoming ceremony.

What would you do?

  • Do and say nothing and just let everything proceed as normal.
  • Talk with your son to see how he feels and let him make his own decisions.
  • Explain your disappointment with the school/students and forbid him to go.
  • Contact the school/parents; start a movement to stop the transgender student from participating.
  • Or…

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1 Jeri Tanner October 29, 2014 at 4:08 pm

The silence is deafening! Tell us what we should do!! 🙂 Seriously, what dilemmas we shall be faced with- if not us, then surely someone we know. We all now know that these things have arrived at our schools, and now is the time to decide what we’re going to do as parents. An incident involving homosexual misbehavior did occur at our high school when my daughter was a student there; the students involved received a light slap on the wrist and then business carried on as usual, which served to further normalize homosexuality and other sexual sin in the eyes of the students. I’m ashamed to say that though I intended to, I never did speak with the principal. And all my talk with my daughter (and there was plenty) did not, I’m afraid, overcome what she learned when this incident was all but winked at both by the administration of her school, including teachers who profess to be Christians, and other students who profess to be Christians. Actions do so often speak louder than words (inaction does, too). These are difficult days. I believe we need to consider long and hard whether we want our kids in public school. Ok, my best stab at what I would do in your scenario—speak with my son, allow him to participate if he still wants to, but immediately begin to speak candidly, winsomely and with well-informed arguments to school administrators and school board. Find other like-minded parents if they exist and begin equipping ourselves with facts, studies, statistics, common-sense solutions, and regularly meet with school officials about these things. Try to get it changed. Keep son informed and pray that he will see the wisdom of it. Prepare for homeschooling if necessary, but hope and pray for good sense in the school board. It just might be more damaging to school-age children to have to rub shoulders with sexual deviancy, with all the pretending and keeping quiet and appearance of collegiality that requires (even if they believe it’s sin) than to decide on another course for education, even if it initially displeases the student.

Difficult days. May the Lord strengthen us for the challenges ahead. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

2 Jeri Tanner October 29, 2014 at 4:24 pm

A clarification—by immediately beginning to speak and trying to get it changed, I didn’t mean try to have the trans-gender kid not participate. I think that would cause more problems than it would solve- let the homecoming happen, I suppose. But start the conversation about it immediately with a longer-term goal of having the school reconsider its policy for the future. Though that would be unlikely to happen.

3 Nick November 8, 2014 at 11:25 am

If this has happened and nobody knew about it, then I’d have some serious questions. That is, if this young man was elected to the court as a female, then is the school already allowing him to use girl’s restrooms and play on their teams? If they are not, then the school should step in a take a stand. There is no reason to allow this since it would be an obvious mistake. However, if they are, then this would be a poor time to jump in since it’s already been allowed and you’ve never said anything before. My kids would not go to a school where it was allowed in the first place.

However, if they allowed this to stand and they weren’t already allowing him to use the girl’s bathrooms, I’d have to speak with them to see where they are headed in that regard. As much as possible, I would attempt to get the school to have the court aligned in a way that sticks with tradition since it is unfair to pull my son or daughter out of this situation and immediately bow out without starting discussion. However, if the school was stuck in it’s ways — I’d likely discuss this situation further with the parents of the girlfriend and move towards non-participation.

4 GK November 16, 2014 at 10:05 am

The ideas to speak candidly, winsomely and with well-informed arguments to start discussion is a good one. We need to speak the Truth of the Gospel, as Jesus Christ commanded us. But I am also aware that the agenda of liberal secular humanism will not agree. They don’t want discussion with Christians, they want Christians to surrender whatever beliefs we have that they don’t like.

As I heard a Christian comment on his webcast, it isn’t even about “gay (or in this case, transgender) rights.” I wondered what he meant, and I realized that he meant that ultimately its about sinners being given over to sin, and consequently giving vent to their sin, as part of God’s judgment revealed in the first chapter of Romans.

A “transgendered” person believes that they were born with the wrong gender because they have been given over to their sin and swept away with desire. That desire makes the grace and love of God in the Gospel sound hostile because they don’t want that, they only want approval for their sin that they love.

What I would do, is make sure my child understood the Gospel, and how the “transgendered” person is a sinner in need of hearing that Gospel and believing in Jesus Christ, and then leave the decision of participation up to them. If my child is a Christian, then they could find opportunities there to speak the Gospel. One or more people being thus drawn by the Father to Jesus Christ is better than someone being excluded from a secular event.


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