Refusing Service to a Same-sex Wedding is About Marriage Not Homosexuality

When a Christian baker or florist refuses service for a gay same-sex marriage, the issue is marriage not homosexuality. Apologist Greg Koukl has made this point several times and I agree. But is the claim true? Yes!

Barronelle Stutzman, for example, owner of Arlene’s Flowers, refused to provide flower for the same-sex wedding of her gay friend, Rob Ingersoll. Stutzman provided flowers for Ingersoll for years despite him being gay. The issue clearly was not simply about his homosexuality, but her Christian convictions about marriage.

I would further assume that Stutzman (and other Christians of the same convictions) would have also refused flowers for the same-sex marriage of Travis McIntosh and Matt McCormick. McIntosh and McCormick are straight New Zealanders, but decided to marry in 2014 in order to win tickets to the Rugby World Cup in London.

Other examples of Christians refusing to serve same-sex weddings bear out that the issue is marriage not sexuality. Maybe it is time to change the narrative though I do not know whether or not it would make a difference legally.

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p.s. Ironically, many call same-sex marriage a fight for equality which is hard to fathom since the first step in the fight is changing the definition of marriage.

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1 Dawson Morrison May 15, 2015 at 5:56 pm

the reason that this is a same sex problem is that it is same sex or homosexuality. so to say that it is a marriage issue really is not the case. the issue is homosexuality. Christians should oppose homosexuality in any form because the Bible opposes homosexuality not because it is a personal preference and I emphasize personal. I do not take a stand as a Baptist pastor against homosexuality because it is a personal preference. I stand against homosexuality because it is the biblical standard that God opposes homosexuality. I have been serving as a Baptist pastor for 50 years.
Dawson. Morrison, Pastor
Mountain. Home. Baptist Church
Tuscaloosa. Alabama

2 Mark Lamprecht May 15, 2015 at 11:05 pm

Dawson, I agree. I was simply looking at a different perspective to answer those coming against Christians for not serving a same-sex wedding on their own grounds. Someone claims a certain florist won’t sell flowers for their wedding because they are gay, but the problem is they will sell them flowers for anything else even though they are gay. The issue is re-defining marriage and then asking the Christian florist to promote same-sex marriage. Same-sex marriage is an objectionable sin whether two gays or two straights are involved.

I have made the case on this blog that such a marriage is sin. More recently, I wrote on to Penn Jillette explaining that: The main Christian objection is that they do not want to participate in sin or encourage other people to do so. For example, any Christian should desire to avoid, both privately and professionally, the sins listed in 1 Cor. 6 such as sexual immorality, idolatry, adultery, homosexual activity, robbery, greed, drunkenness, etc.

3 mrts1969 May 16, 2015 at 1:27 am

Tue Christianity that is following God’s Biblical principals and Gods moral law will appose those things that are outside of what God has made, marriage and sex are two things that must be guarded and followed per what God has set for us. It’s the reason for the flood, it was the reason for the fall of sodom and gomorrah and it’s the reason why society around the world is falling away from God and Jesus in particular.

Sex has become the most misused of Gods creation, it no longer is a glory to man and woman but just a pleasure that everyone demands and feel entitled to have regardless of the situation or persons involved. Even Christians get it wrong misunderstanding the concept of sex and marriage and the relation that each play in pre and post segments of marriage. We see it all the time people expecting to live together before marriage, they feel since they are engaged or getting married they are entitled to sex and pleasure.

This misguided entitlement has spread so far and vast its poisoned every aspect of life in both Christians and pagans so now few know what God has created.

Attack traditional Biblical ideas of sex and make it a entitlement and when people stop turning their heads because two people regardless of man or woman, man and man no one cares we expect people to have sex and live together so what do we attack next.

Who can adopt kids, anyone can adopt kids no one bats an eye at single mothers and dads, no one really cares when two homosexual couples adopt a child, mom and dad don’t mean anything anymore so what do we attack next how about marriage, then maybe children’s identity and then we attack those who try and stop us.



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